Father posted advertising for civil servants son marriage called to find someone to help repay

Yesterday, a father who had boarded the media in Quanzhou attracted wide attention for her son's marriage advertisement. The advertisement stated that the man is a civil servant with a house and a car. He wants to find a “beautiful wife” with “some economic strength”.

When people discussed the advertisement hotly, they also found that similar content of marriage letters and marriage advertisements had appeared on Xiamen media more than half a month ago, but the information such as address and telephone number was slightly different. What is the hidden truth in this one? Yesterday, reporters interviewed many parties to try to understand the reasons behind marriage advertisements.

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Child marriage advertisement

To the woman's economic strength

This marriage advertisement said: “I got married for my son and I lived in Quanzhou District. I was born in 1984 and I was unmarried. I was unmarried, 1.72 meters. The national civil servants are good. The family has a car, a room and a storefront. The woman is required to be unmarried, 1.58 meters or more. Being correct and healthy, it is important to be virtuous. At the same time, the woman’s parents must have certain economic strength...” On this short and several hundred-word marriage advertisement, Mr. Wang, who claims to be a man’s family member, left a contact and said “ The pains of adults are all for the sake of children's happiness. The advertisements also indicate that they are valid for 15 days.

“If such a good condition still requires marriage, is it true or not?” Unmarried reader Xiao Yi contacted Mr. Wang on the phone left on the advertisement. After some inquiries, Mr. Wang said that the conditions of Xiaoyi are quite satisfactory. They will register first and contact them later.

However, when Xiaoyi asked about the "parents of the woman must have a certain degree of economic strength" mentioned in the marriage advertisement, how large is the range of "economic strength"? Mr. Wang did not respond positively and hung up the phone.

Yesterday afternoon, in order to investigate the situation, the reporter contacted Mr. Wang in the name of “prosecution” for the prostitute. Mr. Wang said that one day, he has received many applications for telephone calls, including harassment calls. On the phone, Mr. Wang learned more about the career, age, and family economic status of the reporter's “prostitute”.

Regarding his son’s situation, Mr. Wang introduced that his family’s hometown and current home are in the center of Quanzhou City, and his son works in an institution in Quanzhou. Although the son's conditions and family conditions are very good, due to the relatively high demands of young people, no suitable girlfriend has been discussed so far. The family was in a hurry. After obtaining the consent of his son, Mr. Wang specially advertised in the newspaper and publicly “married for the son”.

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"Immortalism" has caused a sensation in Xiamen

Yesterday afternoon, the reporter searched for the marriage advertisement on the Internet and found that on February 16, the Xiamen media reported such a marriage event. Within a few days, a similar advertisement for marriage appeared in a newspaper in Xiamen, and the content was almost the same. Location, contact phone number is different, the contact is Mr. Wang.

Three marriages startlingly "similar"

Hide the loan and change the surname

The reporter found an information source for the marriage advertisement as early as one inscription date for the marriage letter on February 11th. It is reported that this letter of marriage had appeared in several major forums in Xiamen at that time. Many companies inside and outside Xiamen Island received this letter.

At the beginning of the marriage letter, the purpose of marriage was stated: I am out of frustration and I want to avoid dealing with real estate and think of marriage. In the letter, the man’s home address was “Xiamen Siming District”, which stated that the man’s home had a real estate bank’s mortgage loan. The business was in short supply and had not yet returned, thus delaying the child’s marriage. I hope to find a daughter-in-law with a height of 1.6 meters or more, a good-looking man, and a woman’s parents’ financial strength to help her son repay the loan. At the end of the marriage letter, it also reads “Reliance, take a chance, and be valid for 15 days.” The date of inscription is "February 11".

On February 16, a number of media in Xiamen reported on the incident. The man’s father claimed to be surnamed Liu and was interviewed by the media.

On February 28, a marriage advertisement appeared on a paper in Xiamen. However, marriage advertisements did not mention the assistance of loan repayment. Mr. Liu, the man’s parent, changed his name “King” this time, and he telephoned 13779×××××× (which is the Xiamen number). Valid for 20 days.

According to reports, the marriage letter at that time was referred to as "a sensational marriage advertisement in Xiamen." The marriage ad posted in the Quanzhou media and the newspaper in Xiamen on February 28 only changed from “inside Xiamen” back to “in Quanzhou”, and the parent was still “Mr. Wang” and the phone was changed to 13799×××××× (number of Quanzhou).

Xiamen reporter interviewed him

A few days later I bumped into him to advertise

So, what is the connection between these three marriage ads? Why is Mr. Liu the same person as Mr. Wang?

Yesterday, the reporter contacted the reporter who had reported the marriage letter and contacted Mr. Liu (a pseudonym), a journalist from a newspaper in Xiamen. He confirmed to the Morning Post that the marriage letter and marriage advertisement appearing in Xiamen belong to the same thing. for.

Awei contacted the man's parents through the telephone of the marriage letter and made an appointment to interview him. "It looks like he should be in his fifties," said Awei. The parents claim to be surnamed Liu and now live in Xiamen. Their ancestral home is Quanzhou. However, Mr. Liu is not willing to disclose his son's personal information and his own situation. In addition to the content on the marriage letter, he also said that his son's life is relatively simple and he stays home after work. According to Mr. Liu, the son did not talk about love and never brought the girl home.

“A few days after the manuscript appeared in the newspaper, I met him in the newspaper. He was about to put the letter of his marriage in the newspaper and put it on a marriage advertisement. At that time he wanted to interview him again and was rejected.” Awei said, seeing that he provided It was weird to write surname "king" on the advertisement information, but it was not good to ask because the other party did not accept the interview.

Interview revealed business failure

Finding someone to help pay for the sub-marriage

From the early letter of marriage and Xiamen reporter Awei, the reporter learned that Mr. Wang (or Mr. Liu, or even another surname) said that he had done business with bank loans in the past few years and did not expect that the business would fail and he would not be able to borrow. . Although there are three stores under the name and the market value exceeds the loan limit, they do not want to sell the storefront. Therefore, they have to find a child to help repay the loan.

Mr. Wang told the media that if the marriage is inconclusive, he will find another way to repay the loan.

Awei said that after the matter was reported, Mr. Wang had told him that many Xiamen girls had contacted him. His family was in good condition and he had fixed assets. However, he did not have as much cash as he needed, so the marriage did not succeed.

Awei also told reporters that when he first came into contact with him, Mr. Wang’s concept was that the woman’s economic ability was something he valued, and that he gradually changed his mind and he changed his mind. He said that if the woman and her son get together, it’s not economically good. accept. Therefore, after he wrote the letter of marriage, he wrote the word "revelation."

【Mystery】

The party acknowledged that the marriage was signed in Xiamen and insisted that it was a non-scam

Yesterday, the reporter contacted Mr. Wang and indicated his identity. He hoped that he could talk about marriage ads before and after. However, as soon as he heard that he was a reporter, he immediately refused to interview him. “Unless I sincerely want to 'apply', the others will not speak.”

The reporter then verified with him whether there had been "marriage for the child" in the Xiamen media. Mr. Wang simply answered: “I did advertise my marriage for my son in the newspapers in Xiamen. I did this to choose a wide range. If anyone suspects that this is a scam, don’t believe it is.” After that, Mr. Wang immediately hung up. Break the phone.

It is reported that yesterday's marriage advertisement on the Quanzhou media was a man who took a sample newspaper in Xiamen on February 28 to find a newspaper and asked to create advertisements for marriage in accordance with the above advertisement style and content. In telephone communication with reporters, Mr. Wang said that the advertisement was made on his own.

Three marriage advertisements have led to countless conjectures. At present, it seems that the three marriage advertisements (letters) are basically the same thing, but there are still many questions that cannot be solved. Why do you have to change your last name when you advertise twice? Why limit the validity period? Many questions remain to be solved.

【sound】

Conditions such a good marriage

There are also doubts

When the marriage advertisement came out, different parties came in different voices. Some people agree with this form of substituting for marriage, and others have questioned whether it is speculation or fraud.

Mr. Liu, the citizen: Just looking at the contents, it is really like anxious parents are marrying their sons. Now that there are so many leftover males left behind, it is not surprising that parents are troubled by their brains and are always trying to help their children solve marriage problems as quickly as possible. However, whether this practice is approved by the son and whether the content described in the marriage notice is true and reliable is indeed worthy of deliberate consideration.

Netizen "HOM": The parties are only 28 years old this year. This age is not too big. Is it necessary to solicit marriage in the newspaper? Coupled with such a good condition, why there is no girlfriend, but also requires the woman's parents must have a certain degree of economic strength?

Miss Chen: If I were a woman who wanted to marry, I would not apply for it if I saw the requirement of “be virtuous”. Virtue should be the demand of the elderly for their daughter-in-law. However, in my opinion, this is somewhat of a disdain for women. It is a bit of a requirement that the woman should not be too ideological and demand that women be obedient.

【expert's point】

Exchange of marital consequences

Young people posing for marriage concept

"Are you looking for a daughter-in-law or a bank?" Xiao Bingying, associate professor of the School of Public Administration at Huaqiao University, understood the incident and lamented that the father's concept of marriage was vague and confusing.

“It is a good thing for parents to marry their children, but it is very dangerous to exchange them. This is not a marriage. It is more like a contract, a violation of the feelings of love, the nature of marriage, and the desire to solve the economic problem.” Very naive, ridiculous, and ignorant, but fortunately, from the time of the marriage letter to the marriage advertisement and interview with the media, the father’s concept has changed step by step.”

Xiao Bingying analyzed that the marriage concept of the young man may be very vague, and may also have family economic pressure, or the concept of marriage is affected by his father and so on.

Actually, Xiao Beiying has drawn from the study that the concept of marriage and love has now been adjusted by some young people (mainly referred to as “post-80s” and “post-90s”). Marriage and love generally have five elements. The order of young people is: personality and appearance. , education, family background, the latter is the economic conditions. Therefore, he suggested that young people or parents treat marriage. First of all, it is necessary to clarify the concept of love and marriage, and to understand this. Do not take it for granted that marriage cannot be used for exchange. Otherwise, the consequences are very dangerous.

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