Men’s monthly salary of over 10,000 is still being blamed for wife’s agreement to try to divorce and restore marriage

Ms. Liu, who lives in the mouth of Wuchang, has a mouth that is not forgiven. She forced her husband, Huang, to leave home and once filed for divorce.

To restore the marriage, Ms. Liu and Mr. Huang signed a trial divorce agreement. Three months later, Ms. Liu was a lot better, and her relationship with Mr. Huang was greatly improved.

The reporter visited several marriage counseling agencies in Wuhan and found that many couples in the crisis took a divorce to restore the marriage.

Phoenix men’s monthly salary is still excessive

Three months ago, Ms. Liu came to a marriage hospital in Zhongbei Road. She told the consultant that she had been married for five years and was now facing a marriage breakdown.

Ms. Liu said that she often accused her husband, Mr. Huang, that it was a matter of hours. She always felt that Mr. Huang's birth was not good. In fact, although Mr. Huang was born in rural areas, his monthly salary is now over ten thousand.

Ms. Liu told reporters that she had given birth to a child three years ago and started a “full-time mother”. She was a bit “depressive after childbirth,” and she became more and more aggressive. Six months ago, Mr. Huang simply moved out to live and even Ms. Liu did not answer the phone. More than three months ago, Mr. Huang proposed a divorce, which Ms. Liu could not accept.

Try to divorce and retreat into marriage

At the advice of the consultant, Ms. Liu persuades Mr. Huang to try divorce first: Both parties sign a trial divorce agreement and they will be separated for three months. They will not interfere in each other's life and will not be open to the children and both parents. After 3 months still feel irreparable, and then formally divorced. Mr. Huang saw Ms. Liu’s sincere attitude and agreed to try it. Two weeks later, Ms. Liu made the first phone call to Mr. Huang and asked him to take care of his daughter. Mr. Huang readily agreed. More than a month later, Ms. Liu’s contacts with Mr. Huang gradually increased and she even began to chat like a friend. Once Mr. Huang introduced a blind date event to Ms. Liu, Ms. Liu said: “I just want to focus on my daughter so that she can still feel in a complete family.” After listening to this, Mr. Huang was silent.

Now, the three-month trial divorce period is coming. Ms. Liu said that her husband is willing to go home for dinner. Mr. Huang told reporters that he felt the love of his wife.

Pulled the distance but pulled the hearts of the two people closer

The person in charge of the marriage hospital told reporters that the so-called trial divorce is a way for the divorced couple to simulate divorce under the advice of the marriage counseling agency, so as to promote calm thinking and self-reflection by both parties. "This approach has just begun in the past two years. At present, there are dozens of couples who have solved the crisis by 'trying to divorce,'" he said.

This reporter interviewed Zhou Yunqing, professor of sociology at Wuhan University, and he affirmed this way: "There are so many cases of impulsive divorce. The couple not only left regrets for themselves, but also affected the growth of the next generation. Trial of divorce gave way to a crisis. Husband and wife can avoid fierce confrontation and restore calm and sanity. In this buffer period, they will form a new understanding of each other and re-accept the marriage relationship."

Distance to beauty

Dr. Hall, an American anthropology professor, once divided the distance in interpersonal communication into four types: intimate distance, private distance, social distance, and public distance. In other words, no matter how close people are to each other, they need to keep their distance. The difference is only far and near.

Therefore, even a close-knit couple such as Ms. Liu and Mr. Huang needs to maintain distance. This does not, when Ms. Liu chatters to Mr. Huang nearly every day, their love has almost reached the edge of the cliff, and when they try to keep the distance - after signing a divorce agreement, their marriage crisis is solved.

As a matter of fact, couples should not be afraid of a quick divorce before thinking about keeping distance. This distance should be set aside from the moment that the husband and wife are married. Because there is only a distance, you can see the beauty of the other half. If you put too tightly, two people are like transparent people, not arguing.

So the saying goes, the distance produces beauty. Keeping the distance is the need of life. It is the wise man's work. It is also the human virtue. If you love the other half of yours, start from the usual time, leave some space, be more tolerant, and keep a comfortable distance between the two.

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